“I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that – I don’t mind people being happy – but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying ‘write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep’, and ‘cheer up’ and ‘happiness is our birthright’ and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position – it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say ‘Quick! Move on! Cheer up!’ I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word ‘happiness’ and to replace it with the word ‘wholeness’. Ask yourself ‘is this contributing to my wholeness?’ and if you’re having a bad day, it is.” – Hugh Mackay
Sometimes it’s difficult to avoid thinking critical thoughts about things other people do. I know I’m guilty of it, at least daily (if not hourly or minute-ly or an even more-ly amount that I never want to consciously admit to). We travel here and there, minding our business, except we never really are. We’re bored of our own business, which is why dramatic television is such a hit.
But I’ve come to find that people have their own reasons for doing things. Sometimes, even when you know it will eventually ruin you, it’s just nice to have something to look forward to.
That’s a Meg-ism.*
*Ally McBeal reference.